You may find you are crying all the time, or not at all. It may be hard to speak of your loved one without getting upset. Looking at photographs may be too painful, as may revisiting places you used to go together. Or, you may find yourself ‘searching’ for the deceased, drawn back to familiar places or that you want to visit the grave or crematorium regularly. Some people throw themselves into activities and jobs as a distraction, while for others, social activity is just too much and they feel they need to withdraw.